I will eventually blog about non motherhood related matters, I promise. For now, I appreciate you for reading anyways.
Now back to the regularly scheduled programing.
Am I a good mom? It’s a question moms probably ask of themselves if not daily, very often.
When you lose your temper and speak a little louder to your child than you would have regularly spoken to him/her.
When your child loses his temper for the umpteen time that day and you’re not sure if you handled it correctly.
After you’ve dropped the kids off and left for work and realized you didn’t pack their lunches.
And I’m the type of person that loves hearing positive reinforcement. But I also need it backed up with facts otherwise it feels like a fake compliment.
So when I hear someone say “You’re a good mom” I say “Thank you” out of politeness, but in my head I’m thinking :
“In comparison to who?”
“What exactly am I doing that makes me a good mom?”
“Am I not doing what every other mom does?”
Moms come in all different shapes, sizes, backgrounds and ages. We have single moms, working moms, stay at home moms, adoptive moms… the list goes on. And there isn’t exactly a guidebook to parenting.
So for those of you inclined to say things like “You’re a good mom” I would appreciate it if you follow that up with a why so that I can understand from your perspective what I’m doing to raise a future being of society into a fully functioning member of life.